Hi ladies :) really felt i needed to chat to others going through the same as me. Had frozen egg transfer ( day 2) last Tuesday - 15th Nov. Finding it really hard putting the time in!!!! Any advice, encouragement or even just someone to chat to would be much appreciated :)
Hi kiki6, I've spotted your post a few times and I've held back on posting back to you in hope that someone else closer to your dates would. It's been really quiet on here lately.
I'm a lot further on than you (19wk5d preg) but just wanted to offer you some support. Ivf can be the most stressful thing you will ever go through and having someone to talk and vent to really does help.
STAY POSITIVE!! I know its easier said than done. I found watching some comedy films really helped in the tww. How are you getting on? There are a lot of positive outcomes on this site and I'm sure your going to be one of them too. I'm sending you lots of sticky baby dust.
I actually registered yesterday with the intent of replying, but abandoned my message after the first sentence. I was just way too scared to put any of these feelings into words, I think, because I am not feeling overly positive am my own situation. Also, because of this, I wondered really whether I would be the best person to talk to. However, as I am usually much better at believing good things for other people (why is that??), I logged back on the this morning to see if you still needed a friend to chat to.
My dates are similar to yours, although we had a fresh cycle rather than a FET. We had 2 blastocysts transferred on 16 November, so I'm about halfway through my 2ww now. I usually love reading, but at the moment I just can't concentrate so like Emma, I have been watching loads of movies and also having coffee (decaf, of course!) with friends to try to pass the time. I had booked time off work for the whole 2 weeks, much to the delight of the nurses at the clinic, but in practice this has been hard, especially once DH went back to work on Monday. The support I have had from friends has been amazing, but I find no-one understands what I'm going through quite like my DH. It has made us prioritise the time we spend together, and this has become really special.
Thanks Emma for your encouragement. It is lovely to know that there are ladies out there with success stories looking out for those of us who are still going through treatment. I am so thrilled to hear of your pregnancy and can't wait to hear the happy news of the little one's safe arrival in a few months' time.
Hi Emma and Jules :)
Thank you both very much for your posts. I have logged on numerous times hoping someone had replied and now I don't feel so alone so thanks girls. The funny thing is now I don't know what to say lol. So much has been running round in my head for the past week, months even!
Emma, i have been reading through the other thread you were on and following your story. A big CONGRATULATIONS goes out to you :) It really is great to hear succes stories Hope your keeping well. Just think you are half way through this amazing and exciting jouney:)
Jules it's feels so good to have a 2ww buddy.I feel like I am going mad. Had fet last tuesday and this past week has felt like a year! I really wish i could relax and watch a good film like you girls. Really can't switch off. Like you Jules, i have also taken these 2 weeks off but honestly didn't think this was going to be so hard!!!
My family have been very supportive to me and my husband but it feels good now that i can talk to you guys. At least you both know what we are going through.
How did you feel during your 2ww Emma? How soon did you do your test and did you have any symptoms before testing?
What about you Jules? You having any symptoms?
We are very lucky to have the most beautiful daughter- Caitlin ,who is 6 :) She was conceived naturally and therefore i didn't have this 2ww.
One minute i have myself convinced that i am pregnant as i feel a bit sick in the evenings, just like I was with Caitlin, the next minute i get a feeling that my period is coming. Told you i was going mad girls, but i guess this is all normal. eh????
Listen to me - thought i didn't know what to say lol!!
Hope to hear from you both soon. Really feel so much better now I have got that of my chest!!!
Hi girls, ive become a serial poster since joining this website :-) at first i was too scared but now I just post away without a care in the world. The whole reason we join this website is for support from someone who knows exactly what we are going/been through.
My tww wasn't that bad if I remember correctly. I had the first week off work but went back the second week but just took it really easy. I tested 2 days early but the line was really light on the test and the only other test I had had just gone out of date but that also came up positive. I tested again the following day when I had bought some more and it sounds strange but I was really shocked that it was positive! It's the first test I had ever done myself that had been positive. I've got a son from a previous relationship who is now 7 (conceived naturally) but I had a test done at the docs then.
Me and Dp had been trying for 2 and a half years before going to the docs and having all the test done. There's nothing wrong with either of us so we just fall in the unexplained category.
I had nausea from around 6 and a half weeks constantly it was awful. By 12 weeks I was constantly being sick and I ended up in hospital with dehydration. I know this sounds terrible but I ended up contemplating on wether to keep the baby or not, I just felt so awful for it even crossing my mind and I'm ashamed to admit it now, especially as so many people never get their dream of having even 1 baby. Oh I just feel awful now and had a little cry.
I'm rambling on about myself again, sorry. I have a tendency to do that a lot, I do apologise.
How are you feeling Debbie? on the other thread I'm on I remember saying that I felt normal during the tww and I was kindly reassured that it's normal to feel normal the same as it's normal to feel different. Everyone is different and will have different symptoms or no symptoms. No pregnancy is exactly the same.
Jules how are you getting on? Do you feel excited or nervous?
It seems to have picked up a bit now as at one point the site was really quiet and no one was posting. It's sometimes worth tagging onto other peoples threads if you want or need more support. I remember my first post and every 10 mins I was logging back on to see if I had a reply.
I'm hoping your both keeping well and that neither of you have gone insane yet. I'm sending you both the stickiest baby dust possible.
That wasn't a good start! Seem to have pressed the add reply button already. Sometimes I don't know where my head is at. I had really bad airhead moments when I was downregging on the Synarel, but I thought I was over that now. Obviously not!
I was so pleased to read that you no longer feel so alone. I am guessing we are just a small sample of the women out there who are going through this, and it's good to have someone to chat with. Like you, it's on my mind all the time anyway, and it's a bit of a relief to offload.
Thanks for sharing a bit of your story. Your daughter, Caitlin, sounds lovely. She must be a real blessing in your life. Have you told her about the IVF or are you planning to wait until you see those 2 little lines?
Do you think you analyse the symptoms more having had one successful pregnancy? Most accounts people have left on here seem to list some symptoms, so it sounds as if the nausea is a positive sign, especially given your past experience :) And while AF stays away, hold on to that!
I had loads of what I thought were early pregnancy signs, such as sore boobs, getting up 4 times a night, etc., at the beginning (probably due to the HCG injection), but other than an increased body temperature and a more acute sense of smell, they have now gone. I had a lot of cramping and some slight spotting 3/4dpt, then just cramping, then some more slight spotting, then today, nothing. I know this doesn't sound great. But despite everything, I am still hanging on to the fact that while I am not bleeding heavily, there is a chance, and I am still praying for a miracle.
I've never been much good at waiting. But for what it's worth, I don't think you're going mad. Unless I am too, of course! It's been lovely to chat.
Glad to hear from you both.
My story is a bit like yours Emma. We had been trying for over 3 years before going for tests.Came back that my husband had a low sperm count but had good mobility so they decided we should go for ICSI. Started treament in May but after EC i developed hyper stimulation. Swoll up as if I was 5 months. VERY painful!!!! but i coudnt help but look at myself in the mirror and rumbing my 'bump' (wishful thinking!). I had 16 eggs retrieved from 1 ovary (they couldn't get at the 2nd one). Was over the moon. Over another hurdle :) 13 fertilised and frozen. During scans they discovered i had a pollip and therefore had it removed in September. And now here I am in my 2ww :) They thawed 7, 2 survived and they were trasnferred on 15th Nov on day 2.
Do you count the day of transfer as day 1? If so I am on day 10 :)
I am supposed to test on tues but was thinking of testing on sunday if i can hold on til then!!!
My sister in law, who lives directly facing me, is going in to have her baby 2moro. I am excited for her but naturally it is making it so much harder for me and my husband. Don't know how we are going to feel or react 2moro. Want to be happy for them but it is extremely hard!!!
Enough about me! How are you hanging in there Jules? Are you going to test early?
Your symptoms all sound very positive Jules.I was very sensitive to smells when I was pregnant with Caitlin and even today I still cant stand the smell of things e.g certain plug ins and an aftershave my husband had (long gone now :) ) I also had spotting so keep thinking positive chick!
I am trying to keep positive too but it is hard. When I feel a LITTLE nausious i think is that because I am pregnant or is it sick with stress and worry? Tender boobs -period on its way or pregnant??
Anyway i am going to switch off now, have a cup of tea and then pick Caitlin up from school, which has been a real treat for both of us the past 2 weeks as I am off. Very rarely get this pleasure.
She keeps us on our toes but is our wee princess :)
You must have posted while I was busy writing. I was quite relieved to read in your post that you felt normal during your 2ww and still had a positive outcome. my story doesn't seem to be the same as anyone else's. I had a variety of different symptoms after my HCG injection, and some cramping and spotting, but nothing today. This is my second cycle of IVF, and at this point in the last cycle I started bleeding. Other than the slight spotting I mentioned, there has been no significant bleeding yet, so I am still holding on to some hope.
I just wanted to say, please don't beat yourself up about struggling during the sickness. A friend of mine went through exactly the same with both her pregnancies (her second baby is due in a couple of weeks). She told me she actually wanted to miscarry at one stage, and was really worried that the baby would somehow sense how close she came to wanting to terminate the pregnancy. Yet looking at the relationship she has with her daughter, she is the happiest, most confident little girl, who is so secure in the fact that her parents love her, I know that none of this has affected her in the slightest. And I am sure the same will be true for this one.
I hate to think of you feeling awful, when I'm sure the same thoughts would go through everyone's mind. I have a phobia of being sick, and even though I'm desperate to have a baby, I couldn't imagine how I would cope in that situation. I really admire you for hanging on in there. I hope at 20 weeks things are a lot better and you can now enjoy the pregnancy :)
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